For many, the empty chair at Christmas is a poignant reminder of loss. The emptiness can feel unbearable whether it’s the absence of a mother, father, sibling, or child.

• Honor Their Memory: There are many ways to honor the memory of your loved one.  Examples include: Setting a place at the table for them or placing a photo or a favorite flower somewhere in the house. 

• Involve Others: Invite family members to share stories or memories of your loved one. These moments can bring comfort and connection.  You can share your memories in a journal if this feels too much. You can also write your loved one a letter that you keep it in your journal. 

• Acknowledge the Pain: It’s okay to grieve. Tears, sadness, and longing are natural parts of healing.  Feelings of sadness and grief do not negate feelings of happiness and joy.  You can permit yourself to feel the entire gambit of emotions throughout the Holiday Season.

Managing Seasonal Grief

Seasonal grief can feel heightened as the holidays remind us of cherished memories and traditions. If you’re facing a grief anniversary during this season, you may find these strategies helpful:

• Plan Ahead: Decide how you’d like to spend the day. This can help ease anxiety about the upcoming milestone.

• Create a Ritual: As mentioned above, creating a ritual can be helpful. Light a candle, visit a meaningful place, or write a letter to your loved one.

• Allow Space for Emotions: Whether it’s sadness, joy, or nostalgia, permit yourself to feel.

• Lean on Friends or Family for Emotional Support: You are not alone.  Grief and sadness are normal and it is appropriate to express those feelings to the people you are close to.  

Grief Loss of Mother During the Holidays

The grief loss of mother during the holidays can be particularly intense. Mothers often play central roles in family traditions, making their absence deeply felt.

• Keep Her Spirit Alive: Incorporate her favorite recipes, songs, or traditions into your celebrations.

• Talk About Her: Share her stories and laugh at her quirks with family and friends.

• Lean on Support Systems: Connect with others who understand the unique pain of missing a mother during this time.

Final Grief Tips for Navigating the Holidays

Grief can hit you in different ways during the holidays and each year may feel different. Remember these additional grief tips as you move through the season:

1. Be Kind to Yourself: Grief is unpredictable. Take it one moment at a time.

2. Ask for Help: If the weight feels too heavy, reach out for support.

3. Find Gratitude: Even amidst pain, look for small joys, like the warmth of a blanket or the sound of a favorite carol or cheesy Holiday movie.

As you face the holidays with grief in your heart, know that your feelings are valid, and there is no “right” way to handle this season. Whether you find solace in traditions, quiet moments, or new beginnings, give yourself grace. You are not alone in this journey.

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